What is the deeper meaning of willingness?
Willingness is not only being openminded but having the ability to let go of my fears in order to truly see my strengths. With willingness comes some aspect of vulnerability, and that can be pretty scary for me sometimes.
When we emphasize the role of willingness in recovery, then we have a better chance of maintaining long term sobriety.
Challenges to Willingness in Recovery:
Having to do something new
We fear something untoward will happen to us if we try something new.
Get a support system
Without a strong circle of individuals who are in favor of your decision to become sober, there is less accountability involved. The same goes for the lack of a sponsor, who’s main goal is to keep you on track in your recovery and build a sense of responsibility.
Commitment and determination
We need willingness to make the commitment and muster the determination to work on and heal ourselves. Then we have a better chance at finding stability in recovery.
Am I honestly willing to see what I’m up to…
What my habits are that keep me in the frequency of addiction? Am I willing to try new things, build new habits that keep me in the frequency of recovery?
I have an issue that keeps me stuck in the frequency of addiction…
and I don’t know how to break out of it. Awareness of my situation is the first step to breaking out of it. Once I have awareness, willingness to find a solution is the second step.
Willingness to try something new
I need willingness to let go of my resistance, to change, and to judge myself or others. With willingness, I have a chance to see another perspective, try something new, and relax my grip on trying to control outcomes. I need to be willing to release my vigilance, my expectations waiting for something to go awry.
With willingness, I can open to receive.
Where is does conflict arise?
I ask myself, “Where is my conflict?” My conflict is that I cannot accept what I am feeling in the moment as it presents itself.
Where is resistance present?
I ask myself, “Where is my resistance?” My resistance is to the uncomfortable sensations I feel. I judge them as bad and unwelcome. And so, the moment itself is unwelcome.
What is the stressor?
I ask myself, “What is my stress?” My stress is that in not accepting what I am feeling, in judging it as bad and unwelcome, I am rejecting as part of myself by making myself unwelcome.
Willingness to accept
Am I willing to accept that I have these issues and be open to a new perspective?
I need willing to NOT believe all the stories my mind tells me… and be willing to listen to my heart.
I need willingness to give every moment a chance and to see the truth it brings… to open to the infinite field of possibilities the creator brings.
The Role of Willingness in Recovery
Willingness in recovery is important because it allows one to open the mind and become more receptive to positive change and growth. In recovery, we are putting ourselves first and taking the steps necessary to rebuild our lives. Once we have found that life has become unmanageable and are ready to make a change, we will become committed and willing to make recovery our priority.