Enjoy this conversation with Kim Gross and Elizabeth Kipp on this episode of ‘Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists’ where we discuss the ‘mother wound’ and its connection to healing from people-pleasing and perfectionism. As a stress management and historical trauma specialist, best-selling author, and Ancestral Clearing Practitioner, I share the importance of recognizing and embracing a mother wound. I explain that this wound often manifests in issues around self-esteem, attachment, boundaries, and people-pleasing. To heal, I suggest utilizing supportive communities, trauma-informed practices like yoga and meditation, self-regulation, safe relationships, and professional help such as therapists and trauma coaches.
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Time Stamp topics:
00:00 Introduction and Guest Presentation
01:28 Understanding the Mother Wound
01:54 The Impact of the Mother Wound on Relationships
03:13 Personal Experiences with the Mother Wound
05:38 The Role of Trauma in the Mother Wound
14:29 The Importance of Voice in Healing
20:25 Healing Strategies for the Mother Wound
23:37 Connecting with Elizabeth for Further Support
25:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Recognizing Patterns of Behavior
- Understanding the “POWER” 5-step pathway
- Recognizing behavior patterns and understanding their impact
- Identifying and acknowledging perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies
Taking Ownership of Responses
- Moving away from a victim mentality
- Embracing responsibility for one’s responses to situations
- Shifting from a pattern of focusing on others to prioritizing self-care
Emotional Healing and Wholeness
- Developing a willingness to feel emotions
- Healing inner childhood wounds for wholeness
- Recognizing trauma response held in the body and the need for somatic healing
Building Fulfilling Relationships
- Learning practical skills like setting boundaries and conscious communication
- Navigating the holiday season without people-pleasing or striving for perfection
- Setting boundaries, saying no to pressure, and finding authentic ways to say yes to oneself
Self-Care and Well-being
- Managing holiday stress and shifting focus from perfectionism to self-care
- Finding a safe person to share and sit with negative feelings
- Checking in with one’s body for relaxation and tension throughout the holiday season
Liberation from Perfectionism and People-Pleasing
- Shifting mindset from victimhood to abundance in healing from people pleasing
- Living authentically and avoiding regrets on one’s deathbed
- Recognizing the challenges and resistance in the process of releasing perfectionism and people-pleasing behaviors
For a private recovery coaching session with Elizabeth, BOOK HERE.