People often feel awkward around people with chronic pain
. Here are some suggestions on how to speak with someone in chronic pain.
The next time you are talking with someone in chronic pain
– physical, emotional, spiritual – here are a few options for you to consider:
1o what you can to connect… for real.
The experience of isolation in chronic pain suffering can lead to utter hopelessness. Do what you can to bridge this gap as compassionately as possible.
And stay present, no matter how uncomfortable you may feel. A chronic pain sufferer spends more time remembering their past and fretting about their future than staying in the present moment. They need the reassurance of your steadiness here, saying that it is indeed safe to be in the present.
Your visit is welcome and so helpful. Remain aware of the subtle cues that the person in pain is tiring. Pain is an energy zapper, so sufferers tire more quickly. You may not get a request to leave from them because they do not want to offend you in any way. Just be aware of the time and how they are managing. While social visits are healing, they can also be taxing if you overstay your welcome. Make a graceful, loving exit so they can rest again.