Enjoy this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast with host Sybil Cummin and Elizabeth Kipp in Ep 82: Alone in Your Wound: Healing Unresolved Trauma with Elizabeth Kipp.
The trauma of an abusive relationship impacts your life in so many ways. And if the trauma remains unresolved, it can show up in your body in a myriad of ways.
Elizabeth uses the phrase “Being alone in your wound” to describe how it can feel when you have experienced domestic violence and narcissistic abuse and continue experiencing post-separation abuse in the aftermath. This aloneness can prevent you from fully healing.
Elizabeth shares her personal journey of overcoming chronic pain, addiction, and trauma, emphasizing the importance of understanding the nervous system, building safe connections, and addressing protective behaviors for healing. The conversation delves into the impact of denial, chronic stress, and the need for trauma-informed practices and community support. Join us as we explore the path to healing and the power of safe connections in overcoming unresolved trauma.
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📚 Timestamped overview
00:00 Rising Beyond podcast: Healing after toxic relationships.
06:29 Seeking change in addiction recovery for success.
07:52 Addiction is a response to unresolved trauma and stress.
11:31 Inquiring about unsafe relationships and substance abuse.
15:25 Addressing hypervigilance and reprogramming the nervous system for healing.
20:44 Daily trauma-informed yoga practice includes breathwork.
23:57 Using denial and avoidance for protective measures.
26:22 Surviving an attack.
29:48 Alcoholism is a progressive disease.
34:57 Understanding toxic relationship dynamics requires energy and effort.
37:16 Shame leads to a harmful mindset and can benefit from therapy.
40:08 A Supportive community learns and creates healthy boundaries and helps you move beyond being alone in your wound
Key topic and bullet points:
Importance of Understanding and Healing from Trauma
- Sybil Cummin and Elizabeth Kipp discuss the shame and toxic dynamics in abusive relationships
- Various contexts of abusive relationships
- Understanding and accepting mistakes rather than internalizing shame
- Therapy and community support to heal toxic mindsets and patterns
- Learning healthy boundaries in a supportive community and responding to shaming behavior
Effects of Trauma on Physical and Mental Health
- Correlation between unresolved trauma, chronic pain, autoimmune diseases, and people-pleasing behavior
- Effects of alcohol and substance abuse on trauma intensity and progression of diseases
- Frustration with family court and child protection system’s lack of action despite knowing the truth
- The link between unresolved trauma, chronic stress, autoimmune diseases, and people-pleasing behavior
- Dr. Gabor Mate‘s work on chronic stress’s effects on the body and its connection to people-pleasing behavior
Healing Practices and Recovery Journey
- Importance of safety, trauma recovery practices, and recognizing protective and avoidance behaviors
- Trauma recovery practices, including trauma-informed yoga, breath work, meditation, and exercise
- Different types of addictions and recognizing protective and avoidance behaviors
- Personal experiences related to denial and protection
- Hierarchy of healing, addressing the nervous system, connection, learning, and relating
- Practices to address hypervigilance of the nervous system, including breath work, yoga, counseling, and group work
- Elizabeth Kipp’s experience with a specialized program and recovery from chronic pain, addiction, and trauma
Impact of Trauma on Relationships
- Effects of unresolved trauma on survivors’ behavior and coping mechanisms
- Impact of disconnection in relationships due to unresolved trauma
- The dynamic of protection and its impact on relationships
- Need for safe connections and recognizing safety for healing
Challenges in Finding Safe Spaces for Healing
- The challenge of trusting safe individuals after long-term abuse
- The importance of finding safe spaces for healing and allowing the nervous system to recognize safety
- Lack of understanding in the outside world for survivors finding support within communities
- The importance of safe connections for survivors to heal from trauma
Elizabeth offers private addiction recovery coaching sessions and Ancestral Clearing sessions that help us release the negative imprints of intergenerational trauma. You can book a session HERE.
Ancestral Clearing is an energy medicine modality that is complementary to all other healing modalities. It was pioneered by Howard Wills and further developed and taught by John Newton.
